You need not focus on the past.
The past isn’t you, it’s what WAS you.
Time is forever moving forward, so why are you looking back?
Your fixation on what ‘was’, will lead to ruin, like it did for Lot’s wife:
Genesis Chapter 19: God Destroys Sodom and Gomorrah
23 The sun had risen on the earth when Lot came to Zoar. 24 Then the Lord rained on Sodom and Gomorrah sulfur and fire from the Lord out of heaven. 25 And he overthrew those cities, and all the valley, and all the inhabitants of the cities, and what grew on the ground. 26 But Lot’s wife, behind him, looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.
Lot’s Wife couldn’t let go of the past, she was instructed specifically to never look back but she couldn’t…
She was stuck in the past and was swallowed whole along with the two cities.
The past swallows people whole everyday and they aren’t aware of it. They’ll spend year after year wondering what life could have been. On their death bed they’ll say:
“I wish lived for myself. If only I spent more time in the moment and not let life pass me by”
They never truly live a life of purpose or of meaning.
They’re stuck on past failures, accomplishments, relationships, moments.
If you aren’t living in the present and future…
You are dying
You are dying every time you take a backward look.
You are dying because you are letting precious life slip through your fingers.
Lot’s wife died when she stopped moving forward and looked back. What does that tell you?
“I WANT TO LIVE!”
Then breathe deeply, stretch out your arms, and say “I’M HERE!” out loud.
Get into the moment and practice mindfulness, that alone will immediately pull your focus into the present.
Next you need a target…something to fixate on. Like a homing missile you need a target to destroy. If your target is to get a bigger chest you do push-ups daily.
If your goal is to make money, look for things in your pad to sell on craigslist.
You need a system of habits and once you have it, you won’t slip back into would have beens or could have beens. Scott Adams talks about this at length in his book. In his book you’ll see Scott had every excuse to live in the past yet he didn’t. I highly recommend his book.
My favorite set of habits is from 30 Days of Discipline. You feel WHOLE when you embrace this set of habits. You become a man of resolve and discipline, check this video:
A solid routine like this gets you FOCUSED on the day.
No more cryin’ about the past, none of that shit.
You are a new man every morning.
Every morning it’s a new you.
Go forth and live anew.